“5 Lessons Most People Learn Way Too Late in Life”

Alyssa Satara wrote “5 Lessons Most People Learn Way Too Late in Life.” It appeared on Inc.com.  Below is her list with some of my thoughts:

Perception is reality.  This is true for our view of the world and other people’s views of the world and us.  Perception can create bias or make us miss what’s happening (how someone feels, a potential opportunity, …).

Everything is temporary.  Life cycles.  Whether it’s personal, business, or family, life’s not linear.  As Satara notes, enjoy the highs and know the lows are temporary.

The importance of being present.  I have nothing to add here as the article quotes Lao Tzu “If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”

Do what you love, love what you do.  As the saying goes, we’re not here for a long time, we’re here for a good time.  Life’s too short to not do what’s enjoyable and fulfilling.

Being happy takes work.  My favorite book on happiness is What Happy People Know.  In the book, the author notes to be happy, we need relationships, purpose, and appreciation.

Crazy Busy and Proud of it

After much anticipation, my wife and daughter finally got their new kitten, Stanley.  Watching this ball of energy chase its tail reminded me of a recent article in The Harvard Business Review called “Crazy Busy: The New Status Symbol.”

In summary, Americans don’t respect leisure time.

In the old world order, leisure was a status symbol.  Today, according to research shared in the article a lack of leisure time causes “one to be held in high regard.” To me, this is backwards.  Poor organization, lack of delegation, not being surrounded by a top notch team, and/or not leveraging technology are common causes of a crazy busy life.

Michael Gerber, author of the eMyth, states “work should give life, not take it.” I agree.  Every year, we take an extended spring break.  When working, I have two standing days a week that I work from home allowing me to enjoy little things like lunch with my wife or talking with my kids while doing a school drop off or pick up.

There are times where I have “crunch time.” But whether for me or those who work with me, if crunch time is all the time, it loses its meaning.

Work smart!

The Four Fundamentals for Success in Life

The-Number-4Dan Sullivan, the person behind Strategic Coach, many years ago stated the four fundamentals for success in life:

  1. Show up on time
  2. Do what you say
  3. Finish what you start
  4. Say please and thank you

He goes on to say, and I agree, that while many other pieces are required for success, continually skip one of the above and success in life will be hard.

 

Dying People’s Top 5 Regrets

 

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There was an interesting article titled “Dying people’s top 5 regrets revealed and they may just change your life” on the Mirror website.  It was written by a nurse, Bronnie Ware, who took care of patients who were dying.  The top five regrets were, I wish I:

  1. Let myself be happier
  2. Stayed in touch with friends
  3. Expressed feelings
  4. Focused on work that matters… not busy work
  5. Lived a true life not what others expected

Creating an Ideal Life

In November, I delivered a talk at a conference in Florida.  In it, I share how to create an ideal life using three approaches.